On Saturday, October 18, 2014 Eric and I left earlier than normal for Michigan in order to watch the OSU game. I’ll always remember that night at the Rusty Bucket cheering on our Buckeyes. Although I was nervous about my retrieval the next day with a new doctor, one of my IVF friends reassured me by saying that sometimes the unexpected is sometimes the best thing for us. For some reason that hit home to me. Like I’ve said before, this cycle has been so different than the others. One would think I would have given up, thrown in the towel, lost all faith and hope failure after failure…that couldn’t be more wrong. My friend and sister in Christ has helped me this cycle become closer to God, reading my bible daily, worshipping, studying His word, and personalizing verses specific to my needs. After the OSU game, Eric and I headed back to our hotel where I called and put my friend on speaker phone and she shared verses, the song “Great I Am,” and then prayed with us, as Eric placed his hands on my womb.
One of my IVF friends and her husband lit a candle for me at Notre Dame in the Grotto.
This friend is someone I aspire to be like. Her confidence in the Lord is powerful. When I first started talking to her I thought how can she have so much faith in me and God?! Doesn’t she know I always fall on the wrong side of statistics?! I told her about my medical history and my last two IVF cycles. Like every IVF cycle, I was concerned with the numbers. Worried about how many follicles, eggs, and embryos I had. She didn’t care about statistics. She said “God likes to prove people wrong. He likes the underdog.” Immediately she noticed a major difference from this cycle that I overlooked, the timeframe. Each of my other cycles seemed to take months from start to finish due to my doctor being on vacation, timing of my cycle, etc. I was in my little tunnel for too long and didn’t recognize this blessing God was showering down on us. She suggested making a list of blessings pertaining to IVF and to start tithing. I have to be honest, Eric I used to tithe but IVF is so expensive that we had to stop so we could afford the treatments. Eric and I had long conversations about whether we should tithe or not due to our tight budget. I couldn’t get Malachi 3:10 out of my mind, the only verse in the bible that tests God: “‘Test me in this’, says the Lord Almighty, ‘and see if I will not throw open the floodgates of heaven and pour out so much blessing that you will not have room enough for it.'” We decided to start tithing again. Before long, my list of blessings filled my notepad front and back. Blessings started to pour in: donations of fertility meds from friends and my IVF office (saving us around $3,000), multiple unexpected checks in the mail, and “signs” surrounded me like church sermons speaking directly to me about miracles. I knew this wasn’t coincidence. My friend said, “God is throwing you crumbs saying ‘see, stay with me’. He doesn’t want you to worry. Don’t have doubt.” The funny thing is, I didn’t have anxiety this time. I purposely packed my bible in my purse so whenever I had a negative thought I could pull my bible out and read scripture.
The night before the retrieval, we were hoping for a good night’s rest but a traveling youth hockey team was up until 2AM being rowdy in the halls. I couldn’t sleep anyways. Today was retrieval day, Sunday, October 19, 2014. I couldn’t wait to have this surgery. I could barely walk because my ovaries had so many follicles crammed into them. Having surgery on a Sunday is so different than during the week. The office looked abandoned, with no receptionist, the room darker than normal, TVs off. They were running behind. I actually apologized to my nurse once we were back in our room because I felt like I was grumpy and short with her. I think it was a combination of lack of sleep and the amount of pain I was enduring. I could barely sit on my stretcher. I was the last patient of the day. I met the doctor who was going to be performing my retrieval. He was a very nice person that I had actually met in my follow up appointment with my doctor after our first cycle failed. While I was awake on the operating table before they put me to sleep, he performed an ultrasound so I could see how many follicles I had and gave me a copy of them. I had 18 follicles! It was the most painful ultrasound I have ever had. I remember thinking that I was seconds from telling him to stop the ultrasound and just put me to sleep. It was unbearable. He said some were way too big and it was a good thing I had my retrieval today and not Tuesday, the original scheduled day. I only had 12 follicles that were the right size. I woke up after surgery having another nausea episode. I was in and out of it. The doctor came in and told me that out of 12 follicles I had 8 eggs. Moments later, he rubbed my forehead with back of his palm to gently wake me and told me I actually had 9 eggs. I was happy with those numbers.
Eric said I woke up from surgery and told him take a picture and then fell right back asleep. He did what I asked and said, “smile!” 🙂
On Monday, October 20, 2014 we received the fertilization results. Out of 9 eggs, 8 matured, and 6 fertilized. At first I was concerned with 6 because it wasn’t the magic number 9 that my doctor had always stressed. Since my doctor recommended doing Preimplantation Genetic Screening (PGS) a high number of embryos are important because many of them will not pass the genetic testing or survive. Since my doctor was out of the country the office was going to call him and see what he thought we should do. I cried. I really wanted to do PGS because it would give us more answers. The nurse called back a couple hours later and said she spoke to my doctor on an international phone and he didn’t hesitate; he still wanted us to do the PGS. I felt relieved. The nurse did warn me about cases where couples show up for their transfer and are told that none of their embryos were genetically normal or survived. Even with this news, I knew I had to stay positive. It’s so true that it was in God’s hands now…completely out of my control.
Five days later on Friday, October 24, 2014 we traveled to Michigan for our transfer day. I was scheduled for 1:15pm. The waiting room was packed. It was my doctor’s first day back to work and I was second to last on his schedule. Thank goodness I’m not shy! I met numerous couples who socialized with us in the waiting room. It seemed everyone wanted to hear our story. Two hours later I got called back to room #3. That may mean nothing to you, but 3 is my favorite number, this was my third cycle, my husband made the Ohio State Marching Band on his third try, third times a charm…and here we were sitting in room #3. Once we got back into the operating room, my doctor answered all of my questions and told us everything about our little embryos, including the genders. I cannot wait to share with the world what baby Hurless 1 & 2 are if they survive. 🙂 Out of 6 embryos, only 2 were genetically perfect embryos. These 2 precious embryos were already hatching out of their shells which is wonderful! They are still waiting on results for a third embryo. If it’s genetically normal, they will freeze that embryo for future use. My doctor spent so much time with me. I expressed how nervous I was to go home. The long drive scared me and the dreaded two week wait made me cringe. I’ve said this before, the two week wait has always been the most difficult for me mostly because it has never worked. My doctor reassured me that I would be okay driving home. He said, “it’s not your fault it hasn’t work. It’s either going to implant, or it won’t.” It was such a simple statement, but I felt like a huge weight was lifted off of me. I’ve always told Eric that there is so much pressure on me and those 2 embryos to implant. My doctor then teased me and said that I could go home with him for 2 weeks and stay in his guest bedroom. 😉
It was time to insert the two embryos into my uterus. Eric videotaped as my doctor showed us the catheter and then the two tiny lives we created. My doctor moved the ultrasound screen as he pointed at the two bright white dots and said, “Please God let them stick.” It was the most powerful statement my doctor has ever said to me. I’ll never forget those words. That little prayer right then proved that this cycle was so different from the rest. It was truly in God’s hands. I believed. I felt calm. In fact, I didn’t feel a thing “down there.” I had no pain, no worries, and knew once again I was surrounded in prayer. My doctor came into my room after my transfer and asked if I moved my leg. Then he started laughing with Eric. He just loved to tease me. He was right though. None of that mattered if my legs were up, down, sideways, etc. I knew I had to take one day at a time and thank God each day for His many blessings. This two week wait has gone the quickest out of all my cycles. Another blessing to add to the list.
Courtney